Part Two—Principles for Leaving a Legacy
1. A Life Well-Lived. This month’s first week I will cover the importance of leaving a legacy of a life well-lived. I will see how our lives impact all those who follow us. I will also introduce the topics we will review later in the month.
2. Principles to Live By. In Week Two, I will cover key principles to live by that will help you leave a legacy. These will be the foundations of a life that leaves an impact on others. The principles I live by are the basis for the kind of legacy I will leave behind. I will also begin our how-tos by looking at how to leave a relational legacy. All of life is based on relationships, and we choose what direction those relationships go. We can live our lives in such a way that when we are gone, people are impacted by the relational legacy we left behind.
3. The Importance of a Spiritual Legacy and an Impact Legacy. Week Three I will cover both how to leave a spiritual legacy as well as how to leave an “impact legacy.” The core of who we are as individuals is spiritual. We were created with the intention of relating to God through our spiritual life. One of the greatest gifts we can leave behind is a spiritual example and legacy. We will also talk about how to leave a life legacy that impacts people. There are those who live on this earth and then just disappear, leaving little more than a trace. And then there are others who, through their legacy, live on in others for years to come. We will talk about how to be the latter.
4. Financial Legacy. In Week Four, we will look at leaving a business legacy, a financial legacy, and a family legacy. We will see how the businesses we operate have a deeper impact than we might have imagined. We will talk about establishing a strong financial base that will provide for others long term. We will also look at one of the most important aspects of legacy, those we touch most deeply: our family.
So let’s talk about this week’s topics!
Leaving a Legacy—Principles to Live By N.J.W Blog
You know me. I guess you can say that I am a philosopher. I love principles. Yes, actions are great, and I talk about them regularly, but the important stuff is what lies underneath—the principles.
Here are what I consider to be the principles that we must commit to if we are to leave the legacy we desire:
1. Life is best lived in service to others. This doesn’t mean that we do not strive for the best for ourselves. It does mean, however, that in all things we serve other people, including our family, co-workers, and friends.
2. Consider others’ interests as important as your own. Much of the world suffers simply because people consider only their own interests. People are looking out for No. 1, but the way to leave a legacy is to also look out for others.
3. Love your neighbor, even if you don’t like him. It is interesting that Jesus told us to love others but never tells us to like them. Liking people has to do with emotions. Loving people has to do with actions. And what you will find is that when you love people and do good by them, you will more often than not begin to like them.
4. Maintain integrity at all costs. There are very few things you take to the grave with you. The No. 1 thing is your reputation and good name. When people remember you, you want them to think, “She was the most honest person I knew. What integrity.” There are always going to be temptations to cut corners and break your integrity. Do not do it. Do what is right all of the time, no matter what the cost.
5. You must risk in order to gain. In just about every area of life, you must risk in order to gain the reward. In love, you must risk rejection in order to ask that person out for the first time. In investing, you must place your capital at risk in the market in order to receive the prize of a growing bank account. When we risk, we gain. And when we gain, we have more to leave for others.
6. You reap what you sow. In fact, you always reap more than you sow—you plant a seed and reap a bushel. What you give you get. What you put into the ground then grows out of the ground. If you give love, you will receive love. If you give time, you will gain time. It is one of the truest laws of the universe. Decide what you want out of life, and then begin to sow it.
7. Hard work is never a waste. No one will say, “It is too bad he was such a good, hard worker.” But if you aren’t, they will surely say, “It’s too bad he was so lazy—he could have been so much more!” Hard work will leave a grand legacy. Give it your all on your trip around the earth. You will do a lot of good and leave a terrific legacy.
8. Don’t give up when you fail. Imagine what legacies would have never existed if someone had given up. How many thriving businesses would have been shut down if they quit at their first failure? Everyone fails—it is a fact of life. But those who succeed are those who do not give up when they fail. They keep going and build a successful life—and a legacy.
9. Don’t ever stop in your pursuit of a legacy. Many people have accomplished tremendous things later on in life. There is never a time to stop in your pursuit of a legacy. Sometimes older people will say, “I am 65. I’ll never change.” That won’t build a great life! No, there is always time to do more and achieve more, to help more and serve more, to teach more, and to learn more. Keep going and growing that legacy!
These are core principles to live by if you want to become the kind of person who leaves a lasting legacy.
Until next week, let’s do something remarkable!
Relationships are at the very core of our existence here, and they’re something we deal with every day of our lives and on every level of our lives. We have very superficial relationships with many people, such as merchants we may meet as we go about our lives, and relationships that we consider intimate, like the ones we experience with our immediate family and spouses.
Relationships provide us with both the most positive as well as the most negative experiences in our lives. There are those who, though they may never achieve fame or fortune in this world, will be remembered very highly by all who came in contact with them. Their funerals will overflow with people they have touched.
The pain and joy that can surface as children remember their deceased parents is determined by the lives those parents lived and how well they maintained relationships with their children.
What it all comes down to is the ability to maintain healthy relationships.
Here are some key components of establishing relationships that will allow you to leave a fantastic relational legacy.
Be Purposeful. People are busy and time flies. Put these two together, and you have a recipe for disaster in the relationship department. Pretty soon, you and your best friends have had months go by between times spent together. In order to have quality relationships, we have to be purposeful.
This is especially true with couples, and even more so for couples with small children. They need to be very purposeful in making sure they spend quality time together communicating and enjoying one another.
Be Proactive. This is the opposite of reactive. Reactive is when your spouse says, “We never spend any time together,” and you respond by saying, “OK, we will this week.” It would be to sit down at the beginning of each month or week and schedule the time, or better yet, have a weekly “date night.” The key is to take control and schedule your relationships. Otherwise, they will get away from you.
Be Disciplined. Yes, it takes discipline to regularly invest in maintaining healthy relationships. This means the monthly lunch with a friend. It means the yearly hunting trip with friends from high school. It means cutting out of work early to go to your child’s game. It means disciplining yourself to work harder during the day in order to leave at a set time so you can eat dinner with your family. All of these are acts of discipline. Just as we have to discipline ourselves in other areas of our lives—like exercising for health or investing for wealth—we have to discipline ourselves into actions that will produce strong and healthy relationships.
Value People Above Possessions, Schedules and Achievements. The sooner we realize that we leave behind all of our stuff when we die, the sooner we will be able to focus on that which matters most: relationships. Don’t get us wrong, though. We are not saying that we shouldn’t do our best to become successful financially or that we shouldn’t enjoy material possessions. What we are saying is that should be secondary to healthy relationships. We can’t imagine someone on their deathbed saying, “I wish I would have left an estate of $10 million instead of $5 million.” No, people get to the ends of their lives and wish they would have invested more in their relationships.
Be Loving. We don’t mean to be guided by emotional feelings of “love.” Feelings come and go. This is what we mean when we say loving: to always act in such a way as to do what is best for the other person. Love is not feelings, but actions. When we say that we love someone, we mean that we are committed to their best interests. If we are lucky, those commitments are coupled with strong emotional bonds as well.
Be Forgiving. The fact is this: Where there are people, mistakes will be made. We don’t care if you are the nicest guy on earth (or married to him), you will have some breakdowns in your relationship on occasion. That is the nature of being human. Other people will fail you, and you will fail people.
And when this happens, we must face a decision: Will we let the relationship remain broken or will we learn to forgive? An analogy might be in order. A relationship is like building a house. It has to have a strong foundation. That is where you start. Then it must be built step by step until it is finished. During the building process, there may be times when a beam falls or the 2-by-4-inch wood studs break. The builder has a decision to make. Will he repair the building or let it go? If he chooses to let it go, the house will be weak and eventually fall into disrepair. Unfortunately, too many people let their relationships break and do not repair them by practicing forgiveness. People who leave successful relationships behind them practice the art of forgiveness.
Follow the Golden Rule. The golden rule of life is, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” What is most interesting about this is that Christ was the first religious leader to say this in a positive way. Before Jesus, other leaders had said, “Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.” Relationships are about being proactive and doing for others.
When we wake up each day with the goal to follow the Golden Rule and do good in people’s lives, we set ourselves on a course that will allow us to build a strong relational legacy.
Think of how you want to be remembered, and then live in such a way that you will be. If you want to be remembered as kind, then be kind. If you want to be remembered as strong, then be strong. If you want to be remembered as friendly, then be friendly. If you want to be remembered as forgiving and patient, then be forgiving and patient. What you do and how you act will add up to how you will be remembered.
It is possible to leave a wonderful relational legacy. If you follow the principles above, you will surely do so.